Should the bride's family pay for the whole wedding in this day and age?
The complainant says (My parents)
My fiancé and I are getting married next year. My parents have offered a generous contribution. His parents have said they won't contribute anything to the wedding itself because 'traditionally the bride's family pays', but have offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner.
My parents feel this is outdated and unfair, especially since his parents are comfortable financially. His parents feel they're following tradition and being generous with the rehearsal dinner. My fiancé and I just want everyone to stop arguing.
The other side says the future in-laws, as the complainant tells it
His parents say they made it clear they'd follow tradition, they never asked for a big wedding, and nobody should feel entitled to their money. They also say they'd happily contribute to a house deposit instead.
Jury discussion (5 comments)
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A house deposit is honestly a better use of money than a wedding. I'd take that deal.
Same. A house lasts longer than a chair cover budget.
Nobody is owed wedding money. But using 'tradition' only for the part that saves you money is a bit convenient.
Is there a rehearsal dinner tradition in the UK? This sounds like an American film.
It's their money, their choice. Plan a wedding you two can afford and let the parents off the hook.