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A rule that treats four years of living together as less than a six month engagement is a weird rule.
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I've been with my partner for four years and we live together. A close friend sent me a wedding invitation addressed only to me. When I asked, she said the venue is small and they've had to limit plus-ones to married couples and engaged couples only.
I understand budgets, but the wedding is a three-hour drive away with an overnight stay. My partner and I share one car. I said I might not be able to come, and she said I'm choosing my partner over our friendship.
She says she's had to make really painful cuts to the guest list and applied the same rule to everyone, including her own cousins. She says it's one day and I'm making it about me.
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A rule that treats four years of living together as less than a six month engagement is a weird rule.
You're allowed to decline an invitation. That isn't choosing anyone, it's RSVPing.
Exactly. An invitation isn't a summons.
Small weddings have to draw lines somewhere. Married or engaged is a clear line, even if it's harsh.
Go for the ceremony and a bit of the reception, drive home that night. Everyone gets something.