Should guests be expected to pay for their own drinks at a wedding?
The complainant says
I went to my cousin's wedding. There was a drink on arrival and a glass of fizz for the toast, then a cash bar for the rest of the day and evening. Drinks were £8 to £12 each. On top of that I'd paid for a hotel, a gift and a new outfit.
I mentioned to a family member at the end of the night that it was an expensive day and that I was surprised it was a cash bar. It got back to my cousin, who's now telling people I'm ungrateful and should have brought money if I wanted to drink.
The other side says the cousin, as the complainant tells it
My cousin says they spent a fortune on the venue and food and couldn't afford a free bar, and nobody is forced to drink. They say complaining about their wedding to other guests was hurtful.
Jury discussion (5 comments)
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Cash bars are completely normal in the UK. What's not normal is saying so to someone at the wedding.
£12 a drink is venue pricing though. That's the bit I'd be surprised by.
You said it quietly to family at the end of the night. That's venting, not a campaign.
Venting to family at a family wedding is how things get back to people within twenty minutes.
Both a bit much. Should have kept it to yourself, they should let it go.