Am I wrong for not wanting to host Christmas for the fourth year running?
The complainant says
I have the biggest house of my siblings, so for three years I've hosted Christmas for fourteen people. I cook, clean, buy most of the food and handle the washing up. People bring a bottle of wine and leave by 6pm.
This year I suggested we rotate, or at least that everyone brings a dish and chips in for the turkey. My sister said her flat is too small, my brother said his kids would be unsettled somewhere else, and now I'm being told I'm 'making Christmas stressful'.
The other side says the siblings, as the complainant tells it
They say hosting at mine makes the most sense because of the space, and they've always offered to help. They say I've never asked for money before and it's strange to bring it up now.
Jury discussion (5 comments)
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'We always offered to help' and 'you never asked' are the two phrases of people who have never helped.
Go away for Christmas this year. See how quickly a solution appears.
The space argument is fair. The not contributing to food is not.
Rotate the washing up too. Assign it. Put it on a rota.
A Christmas rota on the fridge is the most powerful thing a host can do.