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My sister wants to bring her new baby to my child-free wedding. Am I wrong to say no?

The complainant says

We're having a small, adults-only wedding: 60 guests, evening reception, a lot of speeches. We made the child-free decision a year ago and told everyone early. We've already said no to several friends with young children and they've been completely understanding.

My sister had a baby three months ago and is breastfeeding. She's asked to bring the baby, saying 'babies don't count as children'. If we say yes, we'd have to explain why to everyone we said no to. I offered to help pay for a babysitter nearby so she can pop out when needed.

The other side says the sister, as the complainant tells it

She says a three-month-old is completely different from a toddler, she can't leave a breastfed baby for a whole day, and that as my sister she shouldn't be treated like any other guest. She says she might not be able to come at all.

Whose side are you on?

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  1. Juror 6788 Voted: The complainant

    'Babies don't count as children' is a wild opening line though.

    800 1,200 12
  2. Juror 1931 Voted: The sister

    A three month old breastfed baby is basically an extension of the parent. Most child-free weddings make an exception for babes in arms.

    1,600 5 40
  3. Juror 9312 Voted: The complainant

    Paying for a babysitter nearby is a genuinely generous offer. That's not a no, that's a solution.

    1,500 4 20
    1. Juror 5169 Voted: The complainant

      Agree. You've thought about her needs more than she's thought about yours.

      600 2 10
    2. Juror 3550 Voted: The sister

      It's a solution if the baby will take a bottle. Plenty won't at three months.

      720 3 30
  4. Juror 8407 Voted: Both have a point

    You can say babes in arms under six months are welcome and nobody reasonable would feel slighted.

    1,100 3 25
  5. Juror 2645 Voted: The sister

    My sister did this and the baby slept through the whole reception. Nobody even noticed.

    500 20 15

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