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Privacy and secrecy are not the same thing. You're allowed to text your mum without commentary.
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Whenever I'm texting, my partner leans over and reads along, then comments. 'Why did you say that?', 'Who's that?', 'Tell her we can't come'. It's not that I'm hiding anything, I just find it really uncomfortable having someone watch me type.
I asked them to stop and they said it's weird to want privacy from your partner, and asked what I'm hiding. Now every time I tilt my phone away they make a comment about it.
They say couples share everything and they'd happily let me read their messages. They say it's just curiosity and they find it hurtful that I act like they're snooping.
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Both and Neither votes are left out.
Judge this case : Is it unreasonable to expect my partner to put their phone away at dinner?
6,373 jurors
Both and Neither votes are left out.
Judge this case : Is it fair for my partner to want the bedroom at 17 degrees?
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Both and Neither votes are left out.
Judge this case : Was I wrong to read the last chapter of the book my partner and I were reading together?
Privacy and secrecy are not the same thing. You're allowed to text your mum without commentary.
'What are you hiding' in response to a reasonable boundary is a pattern worth paying attention to.
I'd find someone narrating my texts so annoying. Nothing sinister, just annoying.
Maybe they're a bit insecure. Worth a gentle conversation about why they want to read along.