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A three month old breastfed baby is basically an extension of the parent. Most child-free weddings make an exception for babes in arms.
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We're having a small, adults-only wedding: 60 guests, evening reception, a lot of speeches. We made the child-free decision a year ago and told everyone early. We've already said no to several friends with young children and they've been completely understanding.
My sister had a baby three months ago and is breastfeeding. She's asked to bring the baby, saying 'babies don't count as children'. If we say yes, we'd have to explain why to everyone we said no to. I offered to help pay for a babysitter nearby so she can pop out when needed.
She says a three-month-old is completely different from a toddler, she can't leave a breastfed baby for a whole day, and that as my sister she shouldn't be treated like any other guest. She says she might not be able to come at all.
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'Babies don't count as children' is a wild opening line though.
A three month old breastfed baby is basically an extension of the parent. Most child-free weddings make an exception for babes in arms.
Paying for a babysitter nearby is a genuinely generous offer. That's not a no, that's a solution.
Agree. You've thought about her needs more than she's thought about yours.
It's a solution if the baby will take a bottle. Plenty won't at three months.
You can say babes in arms under six months are welcome and nobody reasonable would feel slighted.
My sister did this and the baby slept through the whole reception. Nobody even noticed.